SPECIAL INTERESTS

I work with clients with a variety of different therapeutic goals ranging from self exploration to depression, anxiety and relational concerns. Additionally, I have particular fields of study and/or particular interests in the following areas of my profession:

 

Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

    In addition to my psychodynamic/analytic focus, I have also found great value in the utility of specific skills training and the more directive approach of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.  DBT is based on a cognitive behavioral treatment, research has shown to be effective in treating a wide range of other challenges. 

     DBT can be effective in reducing suicidal behavior, non-suicidal self-injury, psychiatric hospitalization, treatment dropout, substance use, anger, and depression and improving social and global functioning.

     For more information on DBT, it's focus and how it works, please view the video to the right. It provides a very accessable and informative overview of the DBT treatment model. 

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

 

    Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. EMDR is a set of standardized protocols that incorporates elements from many different treatment approaches.

Research has established EMDR as effective for post traumatic stress.  However, clinicians also have reported success using EMDR in treatment of the following conditions:

Complicated Grief, Disturbing Memories, Phobias, Pain Disorders, Performance Anxiety, Stress Reduction, Addictions, Sexual and/or Physical Abuse, Body Dysmorphic Disorders, Personality Disorders

For more information on EMDR visit www.EMDRIA.org

Technology & Tech Addictions

 

      Our culture is moving at digital speeds.  To maintain a healthy sense of self and family, it is more important than ever to engage in technology with discernment. Whether we are gadgeteers and hacktivists that thrive on facebook or simply putting up with it out of necessity, engaging in the digital domain brings a unique and unprecedented set of neuro-psychological, academic, social and relational perspectives - some of them remarkably amazing and other that are concerning. 

     There are many different versions of healthy living in the digital age, whether you are the ultimate gadgeteer or a digital minimalist. Regardless of where you find yourself on this spectrum, the digital revolution is here to stay, and only with awareness can we gain confidence and the power of choice to intentionally create the kind of digital identity and culture that doesn't enslave us, but serves us in this digital world.

     In addition to working with adolescents, individuals and couples around matters of technology, tech burnout or addiction (wether it is video gaming, social networking (facebook, etc.) or compulsive email checking I also lecture on this subject in different capacities. For more on workshops on the topic please take a look at the appropriate web page. 

 

New Parents

     Parenthood can be one of the most rewarding and joyous events in life, and at the same time parenthood can connect us with unprecedented worry and uncertainty as well as a sense of loss of independence and spontanious freedom. Additionally, there is little that connects us to our own childhood than our own kids. If we combine this with the inevitable sleep deprevation and a complete renegotiation of our day-to-day life with this new little person we arrive at a place of high vulnerability, regardless of your personal strengths and abilities. 

     At the same time, research overwhelmingly shows us that the parental relationship has an enourmous impact on our children's lives and life satisfaction. The parental relationship is the child’s first and foremost experience of what it means to support, respect, respond and relate to others.

     Therefore, a couples proactive efforts to protect and grow their relationship is a worthwile and honerable strategy. I can offer new parents a safe and contained  opportunity to talk about the hard stuff and reconnect and synergystically negotiate the tasks ahead at the same time. 

 

Fathers

     There is an sizable body of research that shows how influential fathers are on their children, and in some capacities, even more influential than mothers. A father's relationship with his child(ren) affects a child's future relationships, his/her sense of self in context of the world, and impacts overall life satisfaction. 

   Unfortunately, our culture's concept of fatherhood has become a beast that is as unrealistic as it is unhealthy. The assumption that fathers are to spend every minute available with or for their kids, tireless providing financially and emotionally with utmost patience and kindness and thus selflessly laboring oneself to death in order to maintain the appearance of paternal perfection is not only unsustainable, but keeps fathers from truly experiencing and composing their own, natural and individual evolution as fathers. 

     I work with fathers to collaboratively shape their experience with intent and purpose in order to fully understand the full range of experience of being a father, including the good, the bad and the ugly. This awareness alone offers us the opportunity to become that fathers we truly choose to be and support our kids fullheartedly and with clear purpose. 

Adolescents

 

     Let's face it: Adolescence is a rough time in life, not just for our adolescents, but for the entire family. Between a complete neurological rewire and the pressure to understand how to belong into academic environments, peergroups and the world at large adolescents are asked to navigate academic, technological and interpersonal tasks with elegance and ease. If that were not enough, we have reached an unprecedented time in our history in which it is our adolescents and young adults that are the architects of our culture rather than adaptors to the adult culture.

     At the same time parents are doing their absolute best to help them in this journey in midst of a culture that couldn't be more antithetical to healthy growth in safe environments. As adolescents attempt to navigate a culture in which sexuality, sarcasm, wit and one-upmanship dominate, parents constantly have to negotiate the balance between their children's safe-keeping and also preparation them to navigate the world by themselves in the not too distant future. It is clear that everybody involved is working to a point of exhaustion. 

     I work with adolescents in order to help them with mastery of the overwhelming amount of demands in their life, assessment of realistic expectations of themselves, and exploration and develpment of their individual, authentic sense of self, purpose and agency in their journey, allowing for a more balanced and satisfying life.

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